I often ask my audiences if they believe the following statement: “Your followers are watching you all the time, and all the time, your followers are watching you”. I don’t think anyone has ever disagreed. The next question I ask is usually met with thoughtful stares. What are they watching for? Your team at work, your family members, your neighbors – what are they watching for?
Behavior Never Lies
Pastor and author, Dr. Crawford Loritts taught me that “Words are easy, but behavior never lies”. It’s easy to talk about what we value and how we are going to live our lives, but our behavior tells the real story. Where we spend our time, our money, and our energy determines who we really are and what are the things that are really important to us.
What’s a Leader to Do?
Whether you are a parent, a spouse, a teacher, or a business person, your credibility as a leader and your ability to influence others is a direct result of the consistency of how you lead your life. People are watching you to see if your video lines up with your audio. Are you who you say you are? Do you walk your talk? It can be difficult for others to hear what you are saying because your behavior and actions are making so much noise.
Personal Evaluation Checklist:
___ If you say you are something, are you?
___ If you say you will do something, do you?
___ If you say you value something, how would we know?
___ If you say you value someone, how does it show? How would they know?
___ If you are committed to a cause, have you committed your time, money & energy?
___ If you say you have a goal, are you taking regular steps toward it?
People are watching you all the time. They are watching to see if you are the kind of person they want to allow to influence (lead) them. If you are authentic, real and consistent you will earn the respect of others and receive their permission to lead.