The Guiding Behaviors
It's often said that most difficult person to lead is yourself. Why is this? Because I judge myself on what I intend to do while I judge others on what they actually do. Unfortunately, I have never once been successful based on my intentions.
Your followers, the people whom you influence in your life, are watching you all the time. They decide on a daily basis whether you are someone they will allow to influence them. Your guiding behaviors are what others see and how others decide if they will follow you.