It’s called the Intention/Perception Gap and it happens in almost every communication to one degree or another. What you intended one way was perceived another. It is the cause of the majority of our communication issues with others.
A personal transformation means that you will move from where you currently are to where you need to be to be a better version of yourself. To transform requires two things: First, a decision to change; second, a vision of what the transformed you looks like, or the outcome you desire.